A meal is supposed to be a place where you can laugh, even if you get a chunk of food in your face when someone spits on you!
Thus Jean Vanier, the founder of the L’Arche communities, in which people with and without intellectual disabilities experience life together as fellow human beings. The quote is from an article entitled ‘The Fragility of L’Arche and the Friendship of God’, which can be found in Stanley Hauerwas and Jean Vanier, Living Gently in a Violent World: The Prophetic Witness of Weakness.